9 things you were praised for as a girl that can make learning difficult as a woman

swordswomen's avatar October 3, 2025

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9 things you were praised for as a girl that can make learning difficult as a woman.

Little girls are praised for all kinds of qualities and behaviours. What we carry into adulthood from this praise and these internal values can stymie our learning.

What these all have in common that makes them dangerous for you is they require you to have no boundaries. As women we are encouraged to give more and more of our time and energy, the driving force is often ourselves. Make sure you put some of that energy into keeping your boundaries and working on your own needs.

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5 hidden reasons great fencers stay stuck

swordswomen's avatar October 1, 2025

🧠 The forgetting curve: conceived by Hermann Ebinghaus in 1885, this model demonstrates that learned information declines rapidly in the first 24 hours and then tails off if not revisited. The solution is to recall or practice immediately after and the next day.

🎯 No goal: this need not be lofty, a simple goal for each practice bout will give you focus and pull you in a direction. This may inspire further training and study goals. Get curious.

📅 Inconsistency: missing sessions increases the forgetting curve, meaning you’re always in catch up mode, always feeling “rusty”. The solution is making up the time – solo drilling at home, or paired drilling at sparring.

⚔️ Drilling/Sparring imbalance: You need both. Too much sparring results in ruts and limited repertoire, too much drilling results in very flat fencing with poor responses.

⛓️‍💥 Unconnected concepts: You may understand the concepts of timing, measure, counter etc. – but can you actually get them to work? Do you even fully understand them? Revisit fundamentals – basic skills are high level skills.

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New podcast: 11 Things you need to stop doing as a HEMA fencer 

swordswomen's avatar September 26, 2025

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🪞 Comparing yourself to others: The only person you should compare with is who you were yesterday.

💪🏼 Expecting improvement without effort outside of class: Class and even sparring are not the places where you’ll grow to your potential. You need to practice in your own time.

😴 Sparring on autopilot: If you can’t recall a fight you are going through the motions of your usual routine. Switch things up, record it, get feedback.

😖 Training through injury: Rest as needed, switch arms if you need to. It will bite you on the backside in the long run.

🗒️ Leaving your note book empty: keep notes of your training, thoughts, discoveries, and wishes. Refer back from time to time.

🦵 Forgetting to warm up: those injuries can be prevented you know.

📚 Being scared of the sources: Get curious about the sources, see if you can work out a small section that interests you.

⚡️ Strikes without control: You have a duty to keep your training partners and opponents safe.

⚔️ Identifying with a weapon/system type: learn outside your comfort zone, find new systems that will inform the rest of your fencing.

🧼 Letting your gear ferment: Wash it already.

⏰ Waiting for motivation to strike: go when you’re feeling unmotivated and the motivation will emerge.

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The leaky pipeline in HEMA

swordswomen's avatar September 18, 2025

New podcast episode here.

I’m fully aware of the significance of my own exception in HEMA as a woman of colour in a leadership position. Ever since i joined I’ve been railing against the leaky pipeline. I only discovered today that it has a name.

Key Aspects of the Leaky Pipeline:
• Continuous Loss: The term “pipeline” describes the typical fencing career progression: from beginner, to student, to instructor and/or competitor, and the “leakiness” signifies that women are leaving the path at multiple stages, unlike men. 

• Gender Gap: This loss results in a significant gender gap, with a disproportionately small number of women holding senior positions. 

• Transitions: Significant numbers of women leave HEMA at key transition points, such as moving from beginner to student or from student to instructor roles. 

• Contributing Factors: Reasons for women leaving include:
• Domestic Responsibilities: The burden of domestic duties can disproportionately affect women, leading to breaks or exits. 
• Lack of Support and Mentorship:Inadequate support systems and limited opportunities for advancement contribute to women’s departure from HEMA. 
• Culture and Biases:Negative stereotypes about women’s competence, lack of appropriate policies, and the presence of toxic environments (including sexual harassment) play a role in women leaving HEMA. 
• Work-Life Balance Issues: Maintaining a healthy work-life balance can be challenging, leading women to opt out of demanding hobbies. 

These factors highlight why we can’t treat everybody the same. I’ve started organising monthly meet ups specifically to deal with the lack of support for URG fencers. Let’s face it, if we had gender parity in HEMA classes it wouldn’t be necessary. So taking affirmative action is one way to address the leaks.

Representation matters, and I fully believe that seeing women and URG fencers, and in particular instructors, makes all the difference in a non male deciding to join a club.

What else could we do as a community?